Honest, Open Dialogue
My son is 13 and I’m sure he doesn’t look at porn. Why do I need to talk to him about it?
It’s inevitable, your child will see porn ... either accidentally or intentionally, either in your home or in the home of a friend. At 13, it’s almost too late to begin the conversation. Start talking about good pictures/bad pictures when your kids are around 6 years of age. Here are some tips to get your child prepared:
1. Don’t tell your child to never ever look at porn. This will immediately set him or her up to want to explore such a taboo subject.
2. DO tell him/her what happens to a person’s brain when they do drugs, drink too much or look at porn. Use the word addiction. Let them know it can be addicting.
3. Ask your child to tell you if they ever see porn and where or when it popped up, either at home or at a friend's home.
4. Remind your child that you have an open door should he or she ever want to discuss porn or other sexual issues.
Are there resources for talking to my child about porn?
Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids (book) is a comfortable, read-aloud story about a mom and dad who teach their child what pornography is, why it’s dangerous, and how to reject it. Using easy-to-understand science and simple analogies, this ground-breaking book engages young kids to porn-proof their own brains. Their 5-point CAN DO Plan™ teaches kids how to avoid the brain-warping images of pornography and minimize the troubling memories of accidental exposure that often tempt kids to look for more and lead them into a dark and destructive addiction. To stay safe in the digital age, kids must install an internal filter in their own brain. Good Pictures Bad Pictures shows them how. This is appropriate for ages 6-11.
Are there any good filters on the market to block porn sites?
Since parents are busy and cannot constantly stand guard over computer use, a little electronic help might come in handy. The internet filter software on the market today allows parents to block websites and chat rooms that parents deem inappropriate. This software can do much more including such things as filtering emails, monitoring social media sites and sending parents email alerts if someone using a computer is accessing objectionable content.
Covenant Eyes is a helpful resource. It is 9.99 a month for a single person or if you don’t have kids or there is a flat rate of 13.99 for the entire family’s electronics.
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